Update: I'm feeling good, much better. I thrive on distractions and busyness and while part of me hesitates to linger on our loss, I recall in a previous post that I promised to share some of the things I've recently learned. Here goes.
Losing a baby at any stage before its birth is a heartwrenching loss and instantly poses many questions. Each situation is so different, each couple, parent, family, and child. I believe our merciful Heavenly Father is mindful of each of His children, their individual questions and situations and, in time, as we seek for God's truth, His enlightenment will come.
I think it can take a lifetime to take the 'miss' out of a miscarraige. And while it will always be 'missed,' I strongly feel that our baby is
NOT 'missing.'
The prophet Joseph Smith Jr. taught the following: "A question may be asked - 'Will mothers have their children in eternity?' Yes! Yes! Mothers, you shall have your children; for they shall have eternal life, for their debt is paid." While speaking at the funeral of a small child, the prophet pointed to the child's mother and said: "You will have the joy, the pleasure and satisfaction of nurturing this child, after its resurrection, until it reaches the full stature of its spirit."
President Smith also taught that, "The Lord takes many away, even in infancy, that they may escape the envy of man and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely, to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again." At another time he said, "We came to this earth that we might have a body and present it pure before God in the Celestial Kingdom. The great principle of happiness consists in having a body."
I know our baby recieved a body and inherited it for a time.
The prophet Joseph F. Smith stated, "The body of man enters upon its career as a tiny germ or embryo, which becomes an infant, quickened at a certain stage by the spirit whose tabernacle it is, and the child, after being born, develops into a man." In Mormon Doctrine, Bruce R. McConkie adds that "this interpretation is in harmony with the general knowledge we have of the mercy and justice of that Infinite Being in whose divine economy
nothing is ever lost. It would appear that we can look forward with hope and anticipation for the resurrection of stillborn children."
Isn't that wonderful? To God,
nothing is ever lost; not a hair of the head, nor a fallen sparrow.
In the Doctrine and Covenants 124:28 the saints were instructed to build this dispensation's first temple unto the Lord. "For there is not a place found on the earth that
He may come to and restore again that which was lost unto you, or which He hath taken away. . ."
In the Book of Mormon, Alma 11:44, regarding resurrection, we read, ". . . This restoration shall come to all, both old and young, both bond and free, both male and female, both the wicked and the righteous; and even there shall not so much as a hair of their heads be lost; but everything shall be restored to its perfect frame. . ."
The Savior taught in St. Matthew 10:29-31, "Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father."
"But the very hairs of your head are all numbered."
"Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows."
Does this not apply to an unborn baby? A living and growing embryo with a beating heart and sensitivity to light and sound? I find comfort in knowing that the Lord is in charge and whether or not stillborn children get another chance at coming to this earth, all are in His care. 1 Nephi 9:6,"But
the Lord knoweth all things from the beginning; wherefore, he prepareth a way to accomplish all his works among the children of men; for behold,
he hath all power unto the fulfilling of all his words. And thus it is. Amen."
In the meantime. . .
Til we meet again, little one, I'll be missing you.
